When we become parents, our lives change and our focus shifts to making sure our children are doing okay. That can mean driving them to school, helping them with their homework, helping them get over a girl/boy, or just being there for them when they need us as a motivator. This is our job among many other responsibilities of being a parent.
During the chaos, it's easy to forget about our own needs and many of us tend to isolate our emotions from those who care about us. We carry all the weight on our own shoulders because we don't want to burden others with our emotional baggage. Getting around to fixing something becomes months overdue, because do not want to burden someone by needing help. We especially do not want to burden our Dads with our baggage, because at this point in our lives we feel like we should be taking care of them. However, that is the furthest thing from the truth and I'm seeing that more and more. It's a two-way street of support and it always will be.
Our Dads are watching our lives from the outside, just like we are watching our kids from the inside. They're much more observant than we may realize. We are so busy being parents ourselves that we forget the desire our Dads have to still play a parental role in our lives. They see our emotions, they worry about us, and most importantly they want to feel our dependency on them. It's about still fulfilling that parental purpose they have spent their entire lives focused on. Many of our Dads have spent everything within their capabilities to ensure our happiness, even into our adulthood.
So what am I saying? I'm telling you to be vulnerable to your Dad. He wants to still play an integral role in your life. Let him know that you still need him because he want to know that you do. There is a very strong change he is waiting for you to call him today with a problem he can fix for you, whether it is a household, automotive, or emotional fix.
Ask your Dad to come help you hang that new TV. If you're having trouble with fixing your car, call your Dad and invite him over for some help. It doesn't matter if he knows a damn thing about fixing cars. Just call him, because he wants you to. If it feels like the weight of the world is on your shoulders, it's okay to call your Dad and cry. Even though you're an adult yourself, he's waiting to comfort you in your moments of vulnerability.
I wrote this because one day he may need you to be a beacon of light to help him get through his final days. He will want to feel as if he did everything he could for you. I also say this because there are plenty of men out there who would do anything to have one more opportunity to have Dad show him how to fix something, better yet hug away his sadness. Just ask someone who has lost their Dad, and they will tell you.
Call your Dad today...